Have you ever whined about not having something only to have it be delivered or show up right as you’d forgotten about it, in essence - let go of the need to control the when & then it arrived? When I am extremely hungry and out to eat, I will distract myself with some task until the food arrives, thereby letting go of my attachment and desire to control the when my food arrives.
For the parents out there, are you more likely to be prompt in preparing the food for your kids, when they politely ask for it or when they are banging their forks on the table chanting bring me food! For those of you who have worked in the food service industry I am sure you are aware that the more impatient the customer the more challenging it is to give them prompt courteous service.
So in essence by complaining we make the lack of what we want our fault. YES, even a statement like “I am so hungry I could chew my arm off” or “and make it snappy” are complaints. Something better would be “I am excited to taste the amazing dish I ordered.”
Why is this? Complaints are not a high vibe! Complaints are a drain on our energy, so it tends to make it more difficult for the things we desire to arrive. Whether it is food, a promotion, a relationship a particular milestone for your kid or anything else – ANY complaint about the timing or lack of what you want pushes that same something away.
Quantum physics suggests that time is an illusion. So we can bring about whatever we want as soon as that reality is possible within our minds, as soon as we are in vibrational harmony with that thing. So if we are wanting something positive (a high vibration) – complaining isn’t a high vibration so it inhibits the delivery of what we want.
Impatience drives our goals further and further away. If we are running a marathon, turn the corner and think “oh no, there is still so far to go” then we add a lot more weight to the distance left to be run. Whereas if we turn the corner and keep going, focusing on each stride, each breath -we will get there faster and with less strain. The best thing we can do today is to begin knowing that that thing that we want is ours. Never complain about lack, instead be thankful for having.
Have you ever had someone tell you that you were being really negative when you didn’t think you were? I know I have! It irritates me, but it also lets me know that it is time for a self-check. We live so much of our lives on auto-pilot, we are all so consumed with career or family or other distracting obligations that we don’t always realize when we aren’t being positive.
I hear a lot of my clients say things like, “what is wrong with me” or “I am so stupid”. Unfortunately when you are looking for something to be wrong or seeing ourselves as stupid or anything less than what we desire – we are inviting more of what we claim to not want right back in. Ridiculing ourselves is still a form of complaint and it only breeds more to be unhappy about.
Since I had my son, I have been wanting to shed the last 20 pounds of excess body fat, he’s almost 2. I’ve worked out, cut out sugar, cut out dairy and now even gluten all this and I now had 25 pounds to lose to get to my target weight. The whole time I was doing this I was thinking “I am chubby” or “I don’t like the way I look” or even “I am just not comfortable at this weight”.
It wasn’t until I realized that I was complaining that I was able to turn it all around. Anytime I started to think about myself, my appearance or my weight I began a new mantra – “I AM Fit Sexy Mom!” After only 2 weeks of saying this, I was pleased to see that I was firming up my muscles and starting to notice a difference in my waistline. The difference was not happening when I stepped on the scale, but I was still getting closer & closer to being the fit sexy mom I know I am.
All we can do is take the next step, what is the next small step we can take today to get to where we want to be? What is going to be challenging, maybe a little scary and fun? How can we change what we are saying to ourselves to be in harmony with what we want to bring about in our lives? What is there that we can do today which is going to help us believe that we are one step closer to our goal, I guarantee you – it’s not making a complaint.
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