Complaining – it’s all our fault! Choices, it all comes down to choices. We can choose to complain or choose to look for the good. When we choose to complain we increase the overall intensity of the vibration of what we are complaining about. Typically we are complaining about things that are not what we want.

Consider that every time we have the desire to complain that this is a most exciting opportunity. This notification tells us that something in our life is out of vibration harmony with our true selves, which means we have made or are about to make a choice, whether conscious or not, which is not the choice which best satisfies us.

Shortly after my first child came I found myself choosing to sacrifice my exercise & yoga time to allow my husband and child to sleep longer. I told myself at the time that I was doing what was best for my family even though the choice just felt wrong to me. In fact I felt like complaining about the choice the first time I made it. Hello! Wake up call! Within a couple of weeks I was pretty miserable to live with and I was getting resentful. I was mad at my husband for needing sleep and mad at my son for not sleeping through the night, you get the idea.

I found that once I decided to start choosing what felt right to me, getting up and going to the gym, that my desire to complain went away. When we are in alignment with ourselves, Spirit, the Divine, God, etc. we do not feel the need nor the desire to complain. We only complain when we are making choices which are not in alignment with Spirit.

This makes sense for situations concerning others too, although this is a much harder concept to embody. First comes understanding, then being able to walk in alignment with that new wisdom.

For example a girlfriend of mine called and complained to me about her husband. What choice would make me feel good? To pass on the complaint to my husband or other girlfriends, to tell her how I agreed and join in with her in the complaining? Would it be best to tell her I didn’t see the validity in her complaint as complaining is all our fault? :) None of the above. The only choice that feels good is to listen attentively and pass no judgement.

Challenge: The next time you feel the urge to complain, stop, find some stillness and seek the opportunity to make a better more harmonizing choice. 



02/14/2017 8:12pm

If we want to live a happy family life and particularly happy married life we have to make compromises. Aggressive mood can destroy it, Good understanding with life partners make our life much easier.I am at fault I admit it and I expect the same too.

06/19/2017 9:21pm

I have learned that continuous complaining won't be able to help solving a particular problem. I believe that complaining is a childish act and should not be tolerated. We should learn to be more appreciative with the things that we have right now. Complaining will only make our lives more miserable. Being grateful of the things we have will make our lives happier and successful.

04/10/2017 3:51am

We all complain and I'm sure of that. At home, for example, we complain to the command of our parents, especially in household chores. To avoid complaining, try to change the way you think. Sometimes you speak without thinking it first if you're right or wrong. Try to also train yourself to be less judgmental.


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